Couples
I need to leave my past behind. I need to leave my behind in the past.
The B-52s (1986)
It is fashionable to claim that the main issues couples experience are due to ‘communication’, such as speaking different ‘love languages’. Consequently, many counselor’s couples work ends up focusing on a kind of training to learn a newspeak, in the words of George Orwell’s novel 1984, by which couples end up wrapping anew their issues.
Learning to speak differently represents only a surrender to mimicry, substituting the semblance of change for real evolution. Speaking differently as a result of real relational shift is, rather, a mark of progress at psychAmerica.
The question for couples is not how, but what is communicated in our repetitive arguments and lack of intimacy.
psychAmerica works to articulate that which lies behind the resentments and conflicts that accrue within relationships over time, with the aim of freeing up an intimacy unique to each couple, one that was likely not present at the start of a relationship, and one that is not predictable in advance of analysis.